Tuesday, October 21, 2008

The Africa Business Women Network

* * * Quote of the Week * * *

If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you
will have to settle for the ordinary. - Jim Rohn,
American Businessman/Author/Speaker

* * * Sally Commentary * * *

This week my heart was uplifted by a letter from
the coordinator of the Africa Business Women
Network. It gave wings to my heart and I wanted
to share it with you:

The DIL and MIL relationship whether perceived,
imagined or real is the holocaust that has
besieged relationships even from pre-historic
times especially in Africa where the Extended
Family System is very much part of our
“vocabulary.” Though the language of this book is
universal, I would love to view it from the eyes
of an African woman.

The African tradition believes very much in the
Extended Family System such that it is even
recognized by our law, thus making it a MUST to
be married literally to every member of our
husband’s family. In Africa and indeed the whole
world, mothers tend to wield a lot of influence
on their sons and that makes it a bit difficult
for the woman since you would have to manage your
MIL or else stand the risk of being “thrown out”
of your matrimonial home. For a society that
encourages polygamy, women are faced with a lot
of challenges ranging from childlessness and/or
the issue of not having a male child, which
automatically threatens her position as a wife.

However, I have good news for the very many women
out there going through the DIL—MIL challenges
that finally, this problem has been diagnosed and
a therapy found for it. And that’s the book
you’re holding right in your hands—the
DAUGHTER-IN-LAW RULES; 101 Surefire Ways to
Manage and (Make Friends with) your

This simple yet thought provoking book will make
you laugh and give you a new perspective. It
shines a light on little known facts on DIL—MIL
relationships. This is one book that shows you
how to get your MIL to be your greatest fan.
Sally walks you through her thinking as you skip
through the pages. In fact I can’t think of any
“how-to” book on relationships that has been so
vividly rendered. The traditional myths and
legends about the DIL—MIL issues appears to have
been broken! It’s a kind of a spiritual up-lifter
unlike any I have ever read! It lightens your
heart and gives you hope. This is to me by far,
the most positive book ever written and you’ll
feel like you’re doing yourself a favor every
time you read it. The DIL Rules is a page-turner
of positive energy from start to finish. Even
when it brought tears to my eyes, those tears
were followed by a smile.

This step-by-step manual of how to make friends
with your MIL is truly a classic. Within these
pages, you’ll discover your communication “style”
so you can more easily recognize the words,
thoughts and feelings of your MIL and will also
help you to engage in clear and understandable
conversations. It is both uplifting and very well
explained. I love it so much and for everyone who
wants to explore the marital world safely, I
would recommend to read it. Though a complete
work from the author’s experience, I still feel
as if this is a MUST READ for everyone. I truly
believe in the author’s experiences which led her
in her journey to write this literary
masterpiece. No one (in my opinion) can write
such a beautiful book without a divine hand of

I applaud Sally Shields for giving readers such
hope in the form of this fun-read. With the world
of “darkness and uncertainty” that surrounds us
(women) in our matrimonial homes as a result of
unpleasant relationship with our MILs, more books
such as this, are desperately needed. It will
make for an incredible gift to someone you truly
care about.

The DIL Rules entertains, heals and changes
lives. It is something “to do” for those who are
hurting, grieving or confused about their lives
as a result of their relationship with their MIL.
In fact, when you wish you could do more … The
DIL Rules is what you can do. As a gift, it’s a

Yetunde Okafor
coordinator, African Women’s
Business Network

* * * A Special Announcement * * *

The DIL Rules hit #3 in Weddings on
Amazon.com this morning. Woo hoo!

* * * Another Special Announcement * * *

A big thanks to Andrea Amador,
http://thejuicywoman.com/ for coming out to
support me at my book signing at Barnes & Nobel!
She is one of the most inspiring, dynamic women
I’ve ever met and I encourage all of you to check
out her site and the wonderful things that she
has to offer the world. She is a huge inspiration
to me and I can’t wait for her book to come out

* * * Inspirational thought * * *

You've got to get to the stage in life where
going for it is more important than winning or
losing. – Arthur Ashe, 1943-1993, American Tennis

Have a beautiful week, and don't forget to call
your mother-in-law, if only to ask how she is

With gratitude,

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